When our paths crossed~It is one of my favorite love quotes ever. Love is something that caught you unexpectedly, take you off your feet the moment you're overwhelmed by it, and makes you go round and round each and every single minute of your life.
The day started on 21st September, 2007. And when will it end, I don't honestly know. But if given a chance and power to decide, we will like it to be a never-ending story. Sort of like a fantasy that came straight out of our children's fairy tales.
The first trip together at Genting - Sept 2007Well, it wasn't happening as unexpected actually. However, for the first few months that we started as a couple, it was a bumpy ride.
There was this sense of insecurity and instability in the new found relationship. The constant presence of intimate guy friends (for her) and female friends (for me) doesn't help our cause at all. Add in our age-gap and the fact that we were geographically apart most days of the week (she was in Cyberjaya and I was in Klang) and it was pretty hard to endure, at best.
We both knew that our past were not perfect. Whenever I could, I would spend some time to visit her at Cyberjaya and stay a night there, just so we can stay awake all night to have heart-to-heart talk. At that time, it was pretty necessary, considering that all that we heard about each others are negative rumours and those eventually skewed our perception toward each other a little bit.
The truly enjoyable trip to Penang - Nov 2007
For all that have happened and are going to happen, deep down inside we know that this is a journey too far and too winding to turn back and lose it all. We have crossed the hurdles, we have braved the storms, and now we shall explore the future together, hand in hand.
To quote Nora Ephron, "When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible"~
There was this sense of insecurity and instability in the new found relationship. The constant presence of intimate guy friends (for her) and female friends (for me) doesn't help our cause at all. Add in our age-gap and the fact that we were geographically apart most days of the week (she was in Cyberjaya and I was in Klang) and it was pretty hard to endure, at best.
We both knew that our past were not perfect. Whenever I could, I would spend some time to visit her at Cyberjaya and stay a night there, just so we can stay awake all night to have heart-to-heart talk. At that time, it was pretty necessary, considering that all that we heard about each others are negative rumours and those eventually skewed our perception toward each other a little bit.
The truly enjoyable trip to Penang - Nov 2007We realized that we both have undesirable pasts. It is one thing to understand the past, it is another one altogether to come to terms with them. Coping with each others' pasts has been one of our most challenging tasks yet. Those immature flirtings, the presence of 'someone else' in the relationship, and the ever-present sense of insecurity are indeed quite tough to handle.
But we both know deep inside, we can get through this together because of one thing. We have known each other for 6 years before we coupled up. In those 6 years, we have sort of learned the shortcomings and the attitudes of one another. Thus, in spite of all the bad rumors about the past, deep down I know she's still the Vivian that I knew since she was 13 years old. There's this saying, 'you can take the boy away from the farm, but you can never take the farm away from the boy'. I truly believe in that. No matter how people grow up and changed, you can't just change the fundamental values that have been in that person since she was small. And so, I believe in her, and "US".
Atop Kek Lok Si Temple - Nov 2007
After she completed her foundation studies at LimKokWing, she returned to Klang. For us, it was the turning point. It was from then on that we met more frequently and as time goes by, we came to understand and learn about each other more. It was a steep learning curve, but it was a vital one.
Life seemed far more relaxed after that as I was feeling more comfortable having her around, and vice-versa. As the pillar of strength has been built around our relationship, it was time to nurture and develop the love that we are blessed with. To quote an author which I had forgotten his name, "You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving". Very true indeed.
Love is a two-way thing. You got to give if you want to receive. Knowing the shopping addict that she are, I have no qualm accompanying her to her routine shopping spree week in, week out. For some guys, it may be boring but nothing give you the satisfaction more than accompanying the person you love doing what she likes most.
Giving comment every now and then whenever she try on a new pair of shoes, or when she put on a new dress is what I always do. It doesn't matter if my comments are right or wrong. What really matter is that she want to know that I care, and I really do.
Camwhoring @ Food Republic, KL Pavilion
Love does indeed provide human with extraordinary courage and motivation. Since being together, we have both gone through a lot of crazy things that are unthinkable to us prior to our relationship. One of them is tattooing ourselves.
It was crazy, I have to admit. But it was done with a clear mind and with staunch conviction that we are both going to live the rest of our lives together. And so, we took the plunge and tattooed each other's name on our body.
Vian - For eternity
We are both leaving for Perth soon. It will be a new surrounding, a new life altogether for us. Perth may change us, or it may not. But we both understand one thing - that we are going there to find a better place for our future, and for our children. We may be entering unchartered territory, but we are determined to walk through it there hand in hand, just like we always are.
But we both know deep inside, we can get through this together because of one thing. We have known each other for 6 years before we coupled up. In those 6 years, we have sort of learned the shortcomings and the attitudes of one another. Thus, in spite of all the bad rumors about the past, deep down I know she's still the Vivian that I knew since she was 13 years old. There's this saying, 'you can take the boy away from the farm, but you can never take the farm away from the boy'. I truly believe in that. No matter how people grow up and changed, you can't just change the fundamental values that have been in that person since she was small. And so, I believe in her, and "US".
Atop Kek Lok Si Temple - Nov 2007Life seemed far more relaxed after that as I was feeling more comfortable having her around, and vice-versa. As the pillar of strength has been built around our relationship, it was time to nurture and develop the love that we are blessed with. To quote an author which I had forgotten his name, "You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving". Very true indeed.
Love is a two-way thing. You got to give if you want to receive. Knowing the shopping addict that she are, I have no qualm accompanying her to her routine shopping spree week in, week out. For some guys, it may be boring but nothing give you the satisfaction more than accompanying the person you love doing what she likes most.
Giving comment every now and then whenever she try on a new pair of shoes, or when she put on a new dress is what I always do. It doesn't matter if my comments are right or wrong. What really matter is that she want to know that I care, and I really do.
Camwhoring @ Food Republic, KL PavilionIt was crazy, I have to admit. But it was done with a clear mind and with staunch conviction that we are both going to live the rest of our lives together. And so, we took the plunge and tattooed each other's name on our body.
Vian - For eternityI chose to do her name on my right arm, instead of left one. The reason is simple. By etching her name on my right arm, it means "Vian - Right here with me, always". I never told her about this before, but now that I've posted it here, I hope that she will keep me in her heart too. Why heart? Because she tattooed my name on her left chest, just where the heart is located.
We are both leaving for Perth soon. It will be a new surrounding, a new life altogether for us. Perth may change us, or it may not. But we both understand one thing - that we are going there to find a better place for our future, and for our children. We may be entering unchartered territory, but we are determined to walk through it there hand in hand, just like we always are.
To quote Nora Ephron, "When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible"~
Gosssshhh I nearly cried when I read your blog entry!! :) I think Perth will be a great place to be, it seems to be worry-free. But do come back once a while for your Malaysian Food fix. :)
You know, it's true when people say, wherever you go, it's the same, what matters most, is the person that goes together with you.
But of course, we shall try to avoid Somalia...
thanks stef..glad 2 know tat this entry did touched u...lolz
yea, although grass is always greener on the other side, i don't think we both can resist the temptation of the local food back home...after all, who's the genius that invented Nasi Lemak? Hell of a dish...LOL!